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How to Stop Being Paranoid
Do you frequently worry about what others think of you, or are you always scared that something is going to happen to you? If so, you may be dealing with paranoia. While certain types of paranoia may require medical help, many people can overcome or control their paranoid thoughts using a variety of self-help techniques.
Taking Control of Your Thoughts
Overcome pessimism.One of the reasons you may be paranoid is that you tend to assume the worst in any situation instead of being realistic about possible outcomes. You may think everyone is talking about you, that everyone hates your new haircut, or that your new boss is out to get you. However, it's highly possible that none of this is true. The next time you have a very pessimistic thought, stop and do the following:
- Ask yourself how likely it is that the pessimistic thought you're having will come true.
- When you're expecting the worst, consider all of the possible outcomes of a situation, not just the most negative ones. Then, you'll see that there are many possibilities in virtually every situation.
- Try to combat each pessimistic thought you have with two realistic thoughts. For example, if you're worried that everyone is laughing about your shoes, consider that 1) it's unlikely that a pair of shoes will keep everyone laughing throughout the day, and 2) it's more likely that a new, hilarious cat meme is making its way around the office messaging system.
Stop obsessing over every little thing.Part of being paranoid means not just considering that everyone is against you or out to get you, but it also means thinking about thisconstantly.The more you think about the same negative thing, the more you indulge in your paranoid thoughts, and the more you become convinced that they are likely to be accurate. Though it's impossible to stop obsessing completely, there are a few tricks that can help you minimize your obsessive thoughts:
- Give yourself a designated "worry time." Spend this time sitting down with your paranoid thoughts, evaluating them, and trying to minimize them. If a worry comes up during a different part of the day, just try to mentally move it to your "worry time."
- Keep a journal that tracks your paranoid thoughts. Reread it weekly. This can help you not only unload some of your paranoid feelings in a more healthy fashion, but it can also help you see that some of your paranoid fears were completely unfounded when you read back over what you've written. You may see that you worried about X happening on a certain date. Once the date passes, and X didn't happen, you may be able to accept that many of your paranoid beliefs are unwarranted.
Confide in a close friend.Having someone you can talk to about your paranoid feelings can help you get your worries out in the open and get a different perspective. Even the act of vocalizing some of your fears can help you see how they may be illogical.
- If you tell your friend that you think your group of friends really hates you, your friend will be able to provide rational and concrete examples that prove you wrong.
- Just make sure you pick one of your more rational and even-keeled friends. You don't want someone who might encourage your paranoid behavior and make you feel worse.
Stay busy.Another way to avoid being paranoid is to not give yourself a lot of time to wallow or sit around thinking about what everyone else is thinking about you. Though staying busy can't help you escape your problems, it can help you focus your energies on more productive outlets, such as pursuing your interests or attaining your personal goals.
- If you spend even a few hours a week pursuing something that you really love, whether it's yoga or coin collecting, you're guaranteed to be less absorbed in your paranoid thoughts.
Put yourself in someone else's shoes.This exercise really helps. If you put yourself in the shoes of the people you're so worried about, it'll help you see that many of your fears are unfounded. For a simple example, let's say you head to a party and tell yourself, "Everyone will probably notice that I'm wearing the same outfit that I wore to that party three weeks ago." Ask yourself if you remember what anyone else was wearing at that other party; the chances that you remember what anyone was wearing are very slim.
- Ask yourself what the chances are that all of the people you're worried about are thinking about you as much as you're worried about them thinking about you. Do you spend hours thinking about how much you don't like those other people? Probably not.
See if your paranoia is rooted in anxiety.If you have anxiety, then you may be plagued by worry and a constant fear that something may go wrong. Anxiety may even trigger your paranoid thoughts, though these two conditions are different. Anxiety may cause you to worry that you're suffering from a fatal illness; on the contrary, paranoia may lead you to believe that your doctor purposefully made you sick.
- If anxiety is in fact the main cause of your problems, then you may want to seek medical help or take actions to stop anxiety.
Seek professional help if it's necessary.There's a difference between occasionally worrying that all of your friends are talking about you and letting this thought completely consume you. There's also a difference between knowing that your thoughts are irrational on some level and suffering from serious delusions that everyone is really out to hurt you. If you feel like your paranoid feelings are taking over your life and preventing you from enjoying your everyday interactions or socializing, then talk to a psychologist or other mental health professional to get help for your condition.
Getting Rid of Paranoia When Socializing
Stop caring what other people think.If you want to be able to socialize without constantly worrying about how others perceive you, then you have to slowly learn to stop caring about what people think. Of course, this is easier said than done, but once you start believing in yourself and get comfortable around others, you'll see that every little thing you do, say, or wear doesn't really matter to anyone around you.
- Work on being less self-conscious. Self-conscious people worry about the subjective experiences of others, which is something no one really has control over.Recognize that no matter what someone thinks of you, they have the power to think it. Sometimes, other people make comments about us that reflect what we think of ourselves. Even in these situations, it doesn't make the opinion a fact. Aim to shrug off these comments and stop questioning yourself every time someone states a subjective opinion of you.
- Work on accepting yourself unconditionally.No matter if you did just trip over a rug or if your hair is sticking up, you're still human. All human beings are flawed creatures. Embrace your natural quirks and quit thinking everyone else is perfect except for you. Need a reality check? Visit YouTube and watch a few klutzy videos to remind yourself that all humans make mistakes - and sometimes these mistakes are laughable.
Put yourself out there.Many paranoid people are so afraid that no one likes them or wants to hang out with them that they're more likely to spend time alone or at home instead of in a social setting. If you never put yourself out there, then you'll only expect the worst because you won't ever experience the positive aspects of social interaction. Make a goal of getting out of the house and hanging out with people fairly often, or at least once or twice a week.
- The more time you spend socializing, the more comfortable you'll be with the people around you and the less likely you'll be to imagine that they all hate you.
Take note of all the kindness around you.After hanging out with a group of friends or even just talking to a neighbor on your street or chatting with the check-out girl at your local grocery store, you should come away with at least a few positive impressions of your fellow citizens of the world. At the end of every day or week, write down all of the good things that happened when you interacted with other people, all of the positive ways they made you feel, and all of the reasons why these interactions benefited your life.
- When you're feeling paranoid, review this list. Reminding yourself of all the concrete reasons why you should have more faith in others' intentions can help you ease your paranoid thoughts.
Learn to accept criticism.You may think that a person hates you when he's just giving you constructive criticism and telling you how to improve. If your teacher gives you a poor grade on an essay, read the feedback and try to see if she has a valid point instead of assuming that you got the bad grade because your teacher just doesn't like you.
- If you've been given some hurtful criticism, remember that it is entirely up to you how to receive it. You can cry or dwell on it for weeks, or you can think of it as an opportunity to refine yourself. Write down the critical comment and ponder its validity. If there is even the slightest chance that the critical remark is warranted, then you need to think hard about whether this is an aspect of yourself you want to change, or whether you are willing to stay the same.
Accept that there are mean people in the world.Unfortunately, not everyone you meet or interact with is going to like you or be nice to you. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't put yourself out there! In fact, being aware of the fact that there are mean, careless, or bitter people out in the world will make you appreciate all of the good people in your life even more. If someone is just outright rude to you for no reason, then you need to learn to accept that this is a result of that person's insecurities and personal issues, and not because of something you did.
- Remind yourself that it takes all kinds of people to make the world. Not everyone is going to be your best friend, but that also doesn't mean everyone wants to be your worst enemy.
Overcoming Situational Examples of Paranoia
Confront your partner if you think he or she is cheating on you.If you're worried that your current partner is cheating on you - especially if you've had this concern about every person you've dated - then, chances are, your worries are rooted in paranoia. Ask yourself if you have any concrete evidence that this may be happening or if all of your concerns are in your head.
- Be open and talk to your partner about it. Tell him or her that you know your feelings are irrational and that you want help dealing with them.
- Don't accuse your partner of cheating or check in every two seconds when you're not together to make sure he or she is not cheating. This will only make your partner feel like there's a lack of trust in the relationship.
- Maintain your own identity. If you get too obsessed with the person you're dating or start depending on him or her too much, then you'll be even more likely to be paranoid because you'll feel completely dependent on that person's loyalty. Maintain other relationships outside of a romantic one.
Question whether your friends are really talking about you.Ask yourself what you and your group of friends talk about when one of you isn't around - do you spend all of your time gossiping and talking about how much you hate that person? Unless you're in a really gossipy or mean group of friends, then most likely not. Ask yourself how likely it is that people talk about you the second you leave.
- Do your friends invite you to hang out? Send you text messages? Compliment you? Ask you for advice? If so, then why would you think that they completely hate you?
Combat paranoia on the job.A common paranoid worry that people tend to have at work is that they're always on the brink of being fired or that their boss hates him or her. If this is you, then ask yourself about what evidence you actually have that you're going to lose your job. Do you get to work on time? Put in your hours? Show improvement? If so, then why would you get fired? If you've had no warning signs and people around you aren't getting fired left and right, then it's very likely that your worries are all in your head.
- Help yourself feel better by making a list of all the great contributions you've made in the workplace.
- Make a list of all of the compliments or positive feedback that your boss has given you. Now, write down anything negative you were told. You'll see that the positive far outweighs the negative, and, if they don't make an action plan to shift your work efforts in a positive direction.
Remember that not everyone is looking at you when you step out.Another form of paranoia is ego-driven.You may think that as soon as you step into the halls or into a party, that everyone is staring at you, laughing at you, or making fun of you behind your back. Ask yourself how often you stare at a random person who arrived on the scene; chances are, like most people, you are too concerned with how you look and how others perceive you to pay all that much attention to anyone else.
QuestionWhat should I do if I'm always worried there's something wrong with me? Every headache, pain or weird feeling I get, I start marking off all the possible things that could be wrong with me.wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIt's good that you're aware that you're doing this. Try to tell yourself "I'm fine, I'm just being paranoid." Each time you have a symptom you are worried about, write it down along with the date. If the symptom has not been resolved in a week or gets worse, go to the doctor. Just giving yourself a set amount of time may have a calming effect. If all else fails, talk to a mental health professional about possible behavioral therapy.Thanks!
QuestionHow should I deal with suicidal thoughts?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerSeek professional help. You must remember that there is always a way out from your agony.Thanks!
QuestionCan a safety object such as a jacket or nightlight help tone down my paranoia?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIt certainly can, you just want to be careful not to become overly dependent on the object so that, if you lost it for example, you would be totally unable to function.Thanks!
QuestionWhat should I do if my friends are nice to me one minute, then use me and lie to me the next?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerDon't worry about them. Be yourself, and always work on increasing your own self worth. You'll meet someone someday who appreciates you for you. Till then, don't associate with people who treat you so badly.Thanks!
QuestionWhat if you feel paranoid about something that is not there but you feel like it is there?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerTell yourself you are fine and you are secure, safe and protected. Try to talk to someone you trust like a friend or a family member. If you still feel paranoid, beathe in and out over and over again and convince your mind you are okay. If it gets really bad, you can call a doctor to talk.Thanks!
QuestionWhat is the difference between paranoia and anxiety? I'm confused because I'm suffering from one of them.wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerAnxiety can cause paranoid thoughts. especially ongoing anxiety that won't let up. In this case, all of this advice is good but you will need to assess the internal voice that could be tormenting you with shame and fear. Try meditation, yoga and breathing exercises. If it continues, you may need some help from a professional.Thanks!
QuestionI think someone is going to do something mean or bad to me and I'm very nervous, what do I do?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerPeople can be mean, but don't fear it. If someone is mean to you, just stand up for yourself and tell them to stop.Thanks!
QuestionCan blood look yellowish in quite small amounts? (It's got to do with my paranoid thoughts.)wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIt means that you should see a doctor as soon as possible. Blood that has a hint of yellow generally lacks iron, but it could also be an infected wound causing this.Thanks!
QuestionHow do I get to be comfortable with friends?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerTry to do things that make you more comfortable with them. Invite them over or go out for dinner and talk about things you like. You will soon feel more comfortable around them.Thanks!
QuestionWhat do I do if I know I have a panic disorder but don't want to tell anyone? The only one who knew was my father, who passed away seven months ago.wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerFirst, know you're not alone. Many people have that disorder. Don't be afraid to talk to somebody you trust about it. Think of how your father reacted. If someone thinks you're crazy, or you're overthinking things, the truth is that you're not.Thanks!
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- Hang in there. Constantly worrying that others are trying to hurt you is draining, and acting on those worries can result in situations which are very painful to you. It's okay. Forgive yourself again. You're okay. Keep trying.
- Believe in yourself, you have the confidence to do anything you want to. Don't let little things bother you or stop you from reaching your goals.
- Most people tend feel a little bit edgy and more sensitive, especially when it comes to paranoia, when they are sleep-deprived.Get a good night's sleep (about 8 to 9 hours) and you'll more than likely feel better. It's normal to feel a little scared at times, just not all the time.
- Think for a few seconds about how many great and awesome things there are about you. If you think you're being criticized by others but you're not sure, tell yourself silently that: "I'm awesome the way I am.", and smile a little.
- Take a deep breath. In, out, in, out. It helps your brain get the oxygen it needs in order to calm.
- Trying to ignore the paranoia for several months can mean that it may become permanent, so don't just let it go. Don't face this alone or with well meaning friends who do not know what to do.
- If you are paranoid continually for a month or two, and it's causing problems in your ability to function, you need to see a psychologist or psychiatrist right away.
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