10 Ways To Tell Your CRUSH YOU LIKE THEM
How to Admit That You Like Someone of the Same Gender
Coming to grips with the idea that you might like someone of the same gender can be confusing, especially if this is your first same-sex attraction. Give yourself time to fully process what you’re feeling before taking any action. If you’re sure these feelings are real, act on them. Start by revealing your feelings to a loved one and getting their support. Then, make a plan to share your feelings with your love interest and see where it goes!
Talking About Same-Sex Attraction
Admitting Your Feelings to Yourself
Know how to tell if your feelings are romantic.Romantic love involves a fondness for the other person, but it's accompanied by a deeper attraction in which you want to develop a sexual/intimate relationship with them. This goes one step beyond typical feelings of friendship or companionship.
- For example, with romantic love, you like being around the person, but you are also physically attracted to the person and feel aroused by them.
- Romantic love is a step further than just friendship, which may be considered platonic love.
Journal about how you’re feeling.Chronicle your thoughts and feelings on paper to gain a better understanding of what you want. Review journal entries after a few days to spot themes or patterns.
- When you write, are you constantly referring to the person? Do you mention feeling jealousy when this person is with another love interest? Do you find yourself worrying about your appearance or trying to put your best foot forward around them? The answers to these questions can help confirm your feelings.
Reflect on past experiences.Many people who are same-sex attracted report having these feelings previously with others. Thinking about your past dating or sexual history can help you determine if these feelings portray an orientation or merely mean that you have strong feelings for just one person.
- If you have ever felt attracted to a person of the same gender before, that could provide support for your current feelings.
Give it time to see if the feelings stick around.It can be tempting to dive in headfirst once you realize you like the other person, but wait it out. If these feelings are relatively new, they could change. Delay telling the person until you’re absolutely sure you like them and you want to act on those feelings.
- For instance, if you decide to wait 2 weeks before you say anything and your attraction only grows during that time, then you’ll have confirmation that your feelings are real.
Talk with a counselor to further explore your sexuality.If you’re struggling with the idea of being same-sex attracted or if you need additional support, see a professional counselor. You might talk to the counselor at your school or find one in your local community.
- A counselor can help you better understand the feelings you’re having. They can also offer encouragement for coming out to family and friends.
Telling a Friend or Family Member
Come to terms with your sexuality before sharing it with the world.Some people argue that coming out relieves stress and gives others the opportunity to support you, but you should only come out when you’re ready. Coming out as gay, lesbian, or bisexual can open you up to stigma or discrimination, so it makes sense to be okay with the idea yourself before telling others.
Ask for support when telling your parents.Most people may feel more comfortable telling a friend, sibling, or trusted adult about same-sex attraction before revealing these feelings to their parents. If this describes you, ask someone you trust to join you in telling your parents. This person doesn't have to say anything-they're just there to offer support.
- You might ask your best friend, older sibling, or guidance counselor to act as an ally and accompany you when you break the news to your parents.
- When you tell your parents, be sure to communicate your feelings with certainty, so they don't assume what you're feeling is just a "phase." Prepare for potential resistance from your parents.
- You may wish to put this off until you are certain about how you feel.
Answer questions to the extent you feel comfortable.Your friends or family may question your same-sex attraction by asking what changed, if you were previously dating someone of the opposite gender. They may also ask how you are sure about your sexuality.
- Answer these questions honestly and to the best of your ability, so they can have clarity. But, don't be afraid to say "I don't know" or "I'd rather not say."
- Your loved ones don't have to know all the details of your journey to being same-sex attracted.
Don't feel pressured to choose a side or a label yourself.Having feelings for one person of the same-gender isn’t a clear indicator of being homosexual. Take some time to get used to the idea and see if additional same-sex attractions occur before deciding if you are gay, lesbian, heterosexual, or bisexual.
- If you feel pressured by others to define yourself, simply tell them, “I’m still exploring.”
Sharing Your Feelings with Your Crush
Gauge the person’s possible reaction.Before you talk to the person about your feelings, try to anticipate how they’ll respond to your news. Use your past interactions or experiences with them to predict if they’ll be receptive.
- For example, if the person often flirts with you, that’s a clear indicator that they probably like you. You might also review what you know about their sexuality: have they dated others of the same gender? Are they currently exploring their own sexuality?
Broach the subject with a question.Sometimes, it's hard to tell if someone likes you, so you may want to take a more subtle approach. Act curious about their sexuality and ask a few questions to gauge whether they’d be receptive to dating you.
- You might ask, “So, have you ever thought about dating girls/guys?” or “Have you ever been attracted to someone of the same gender?”
- Their response to your question can serve as a lead-in to you telling them you're attracted to them.
Use humor if you’re not sure of how the person will respond.Telling a light-hearted joke is another way to express your feelings subtly. When you’re around the person, say something like, “Ah, it’s too bad you’re straight because I really like you!”
- Telling them in a joking way could also offer them an out if they’re not interested or if they need more time to process the idea.
Have a candid, in-person conversation.Come right out and tell the person that you’re attracted to them and would like to pursue a relationship. A one-on-one talk helps you clearly communicate how you feel.
- You might say, “I don’t know how you’re going to react, but I felt I should tell you that I really like you. I think you’re gorgeous and funny, and I’d love for us to get closer.”
- You might prefer this approach over writing an email, letter, or text message, particularly if you’d rather keep your attraction private.
Accept their choice if the person rejects you.If your crush is not interested in you, don’t take it personally. There are many reasons why a person might reject you: they are heterosexual, they are not interested in being in a relationship right now, or they don’t want to risk jeopardizing their friendship with you.
- To help yourself react rationally to rejection, take a few deep breaths. Then, tell the person, “I appreciate your honesty.”
- Even if it hurts at first, you’ll feel better with time.
Practice self-care.Whether your crush rejected you or reciprocated your interest, you've still gone through quite an emotional journey. Be sure to care for yourself during this time. Make a list of why you’re awesome, hang out with your best friends, or treat yourself to a spa day or a new outfit.
QuestionHow can I tell my female best friend that I want to date her?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerJust tell her. The worse thing that can happen is that will say no. If she says no and is a good friend, then she will support and still love you.Thanks!
QuestionI'm a girl, and my parents are Christian. How do I tell them I'm dating a girl?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerAs Christians, God said he will not judge us no matter what, and we shouldn't judge each other. So, if they are good Christians and parents, they should accept you for who you are! Just be honest.Thanks!
QuestionI'm a 13-year-old girl, and I have a crush on one of my female friends. I told her about it, and she thinks it's cute, but she's straight. I can't get over her. Does this mean I'm gay or bi? How do I move on?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIt doesn't really matter if you're gay or bi or whatever. That's for you to figure out and decide in your own time and there's no rush for you to do so. With this friend, try to just shut down the feelings. Keep things strictly platonic with your friend. Tell yourself that it's never going to happen, even if she flirts back with you (straight girls often do). Try to focus your romantic feelings on someone more appropriate.Thanks!
QuestionI have a crush on this girl in my class. I already confessed to her but it looks like she ignored it. Now I want to confess to her again more directly. What should I do?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerAre you sure she wasn't just politely brushing you off because she doesn't feel the same way? If you think she likes you, or if you're not easily embarrassed, just tell her. Say something like, "I wasn't sure you understood me the other day when I said..." etc. Just be prepared to accept her response.Thanks!
QuestionI like my friend and we're both girls, but she's into boys. What can I do?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerI don't think there is much you can do. If you think there's a chance she might be into it, you can try dropping some hints, but it's probably best to just find someone else.Thanks!
QuestionMy friends joke about being gay sometimes and I'm bisexual, should I come out to them?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIt depends on how they tend to react around other LGBT individuals. If you know they are homophobic, then it could be a good idea to protect yourself for now. But if they are supportive, or perhaps you have an out-of-the-closet LGBT person in your friendship group, then they should support you. And remember, you don't need to tell your whole group. You can pick and choose who to tell, depending on how they behave normally. If you've never come out to anyone before, maybe just choose your closest friend, another LGBT person, or you could log in to a bisexual support group.Thanks!
QuestionMy parents know I'm bisexual, but I don't know how to tell them I like someone who is the same gender as me. How should I tell them?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIf your parents know you are bisexual, then go for it. Just say something like, "I have a crush on a boy/girl at school, and I could use some advice." I'm sure they'll understand and be happy to talk to you about it.Thanks!
QuestionI feel as if when I tell the girl I like her, I will be a weirdo.wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerDon't worry. You're not a weirdo. There's nothing "weird" or "wrong" about liking someone of the same gender. Usually you will not get a bad reaction from the girl either. If she doesn't feel the same way, she will most likely just politely tell you so. If she does call you a "weirdo" or any other negative names, she's a jerk and not worth your time or feelings.Thanks!
QuestionI'm a girl and I have a crush on a girl in my class - what do I do?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerBe straight-up with her. If she doesn't like you, don't take it to heart -- she just isn't the one. There are plenty out there. It all depends on relationship and perspective.Thanks!
QuestionWhat if the girl I like has a boyfriend and I have been their third wheel for a long time?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerYou need to decide if telling your friend how you feel is worth losing your friendship if they become uncomfortable having you around once you confess your feelings.Thanks!
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